Reasons Why You Can’t Commit to NY Resolutions

Let’s start with WHY those resolutions do not work:

1) You Set the Bar Really High

There is absolutely nothing wrong with dreaming and reaching for the stars. But with no foundation of how to go on about a goal, there will be a smaller chance to be able to tackle it. Make smaller goals that you can build on. For example, let’s say you wrote down to go to the gym daily for an hour. If you have never been to the gym or it is not a habit of yours already, it is not likely that you will follow through.

Solution: Break it down into smaller goals like going for a 30 minute walk every other day, even if it is walking in the mall.

2) Doing it Alone

Whether it’s going to dance classes, socializing more, or going to the gym more often, don’t plan to do it alone.  People who pair up in twos or more tend to have a higher success rate in achieving their goals. The reason for that is that is creates accountability and move pressure to get it done. Self-motivation is the hardest part of achieving goals, so a push is always a good idea.

Solution: Grab a buddy who is a positive influence and inspires you to do and be better and have a shared New Year’s Resolution you can hold one another accountable for.

3) Be Honest with Yourself

Just because your friend volunteered in a third world country and it is a nice thought, are you truly committed to doing that as well? Are you setting goals that are true to you or goals that will make you look good in front of others? Be honest with yourself. On many occasions I included things in my New Year’s Resolution list that sounded cool but when it came down to it, I had no passion or fire in me to pursue.

Solution: Make resolutions you actually want to achieve because you really want to and are actually going to put a plan of action towards.

4) You Have No Real Plan

“A goal without a plan is just a dream” – I sometimes wish I could take my own advice. I have many dreams and just like you I do not have a simple step by step plan to achieving it- and that is why my dreams and still just dreams.

The best resolutions are those that include a plan of action. People who set resolutions without ha clear way on how to do it are planning to fail. As my sister has engrained in my brain “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail”.

Solution: Create an action plan moving forward with clear next steps.

5) Not Believing in Yourself

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Motivation=the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way. Habit=a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up. I have several bad habits; driving a bit too fast 🤷🏼‍♀️ biting my fingernails, craving ice cream before bed 🍦waiting until I am basically driving on fumes before I fill up ⛽️ not thinking that a movie in the theater is a good experience unless it contains popcorn and M&Ms🍿😋 hitting snooze more than once 🤷🏼‍♀️, staying up late, chips & guacamole needing a marg to go with it, not drinking enough water, the list goes on! BUT THIS-making working out 5 times a week a HABIT-now that is a habit I am proud to claim! 👊🏻🙌🏻💪🏻 #fitness #fitnessmotivation #habits #healthylifestyle #girlswholift #gymaholic #motivation #goodhabits #consistency #gains #hardworkpaysoff💪 #bestwaytostarttheday #fnxambassador #juststrongambassador #commitment #keeppushing #dontgiveup

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We all slack in our efforts sometimes, and sometimes we set the bar too high only to fail ourselves. Many people have a black and white mentality where they see their results as a fail or a success, but no one ever speak about the gray area. If you set the goal of going to the gym 6 days a week, but only went 4 times, do not be too hard on yourself and instead give yourself a pat on the back and acknowledge your achievements!

Solution: Celebrate small victories and milestones and never bad talk yourself.

Knowing what you know now, what realistic New Year’s Resolutions are you setting for 2020?

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